Becoming Queen: Reclaiming Your Sovereign Self

Queen energy, it comes in stages.

Here’s a thing I’ve learnt recently. Not learnt through reading a book. But an embodied learning. A felt experience. Through tears and tantrums and ah ha moments and then through a felt sense of calm rippling through my muscles. A straight back that unfolded without effort.

To be Queen comes in stages.

And don’t skip ahead or judge your thoughts on this – let it settle. Notice if you feel shame or fear or self-judgment. Because this is a part of it too. We are all Queen, She is within you at every stage of your life. Whatever you’re feeling, whatever work you have or haven’t done She is there. And to get to actually fully embodying Her there are some things to notice.

If your inner child is still sad, angry, upset, stamping her foot or curled up on the floor in the foetal position; you are going to have a tantruming Queen energy – the inner Princess who is demanding all she was not given as a child. Let me explain.

She expects it all. She knows her worth but she can not yet hold it. She is bold and beautiful and yet she still feels she needs rescuing. She is strong and powerful yet she will throw her toys out of the pram. These things are not a criticism of her, its just true. She needs loads more love. Her shadow parts (not wrong by the way, just a truth within her) are asking for cre, attention, love and understanding. Not judgment ‘you’re wrong and because you are not ‘healed’ yet or perfect I can’t embody Queen’ No. Those shadow parts need you to curl up next to them under a duvet and cuddle them. Whisper your understanding, because if anyone understands, it’s you.

And this is not a ladder straight up to ‘healed Queen’ this is a spiral; a game of snakes and ladders, an adventure through your life where over time you climb higher then you discover another snaking door down into a deeper part of your soul – your inner child who is now expressing something you’ve not yet heard or that has been muffled through her fear or social expectation. It continues. And as you do it your Queen gets bolder, calmer, more commanding, more honest and the bit I’ve just found – more able to hold it all without so much effort.

She can’t hold anything if the little one she is based upon is collapsed.

Queen is not just about receiving and being seen, she also holds. She takes care of things. She tends. Her power is earned through service. She gets her hands dirty. She is unafraid because she has faced things in her life and come through bolder, stronger, more grounded.

So, Queen. Hold your head high. Feel your crown on your sovereign head. And allow yourself the space to delve into your shadows, to cuddle that scared little one, to leave shame at the door and bring understanding to yourself. Because without that, your crown will not be built upon solid ground.